Your questions made me start to question why I hadn't thought to ask myself what you had asked. I've won some and lost some matches, but I realize I had been playing in auto-pilot these past months. Being focused might not make me win, but it might let me do better than when I'm not. But I guess my fear of losing is the feeling of embarrassment and what others think of me in the end.
As for how to not get baited, try to think 2 steps ahead I guess? I'm still trying to get better at that myself.