Something bothering you?

[Skrah]

Well, what I advice you to do is to play other games casually with your friends. No I gotta win attitude, just mess around, laugh at people's mistakes, if you're three gang up on the other guy, and just have a good time.

Once you get that down, that sense of casualness, then try out Brawl, (cause melee is serious business matter) pick some character, doesn't have to be one you're good at. Take me for example, lets say we're playing with our best characters. We finish the game, and I pick bowser. I start the match and I'm just looking to bowsercide. You have to have that sense of comfort with your friends, they ain't gonna judge you

 

[Flamingo]

I don't get attached to anyone anymore. I have tons of "friends," and they are all pretty nice people and all, but I don't really enjoy being around any of them. I can't think of anyone in my entire school with whom I would like to go to prom. I haven't liked a girl in over a year and a half. I'm not even sure that I would be sad if a family member died.

I could continue listing stuff, but i think you probably get the idea. Anyway, it bothers me a bit. This isn't very normal, is it? I'm 18, by the way, and in my senior year of high school.

It's called detachment I believe, I learned about that in one of my communications classes, it's basically a negative way to sort out your problems by not associating yourself with them, I went through this, I hate confrontation and the criticism that comes with it, so quite often I 'detach' myself from things. This is why people think I am depressed, and I may be, idk. But that's just what it sound's like you are describing, and I am a fellow sufferer of that as well.

 

[Kinzer]

Seems like nothing can go wrong if you don't worry about it though.

I'm so detached from all of my friends always moving out of town when I bond with them, and most of my family speaks another language I can never understand while only a select few will have any idea what I would say that I-... I just don't bother socializing with people anymore because it's too much pain to deal with for only a temporary happiness that isn't even really all that satisfying...

 

[RelaxImAProfessional]

nintendoman dont quit playing smash. and its ok if something makes you upset. things that matter do that sometimes and you just gotta stop being soft to it. you kind of have to get over being nervous and that comes with confidence and acceptance of weakness. its ok to lose first of all. second you have to let go of the idea of being a challenge for your opponent. because there is no limit to how good your opponent could be. what you have to do is just play and do your best, and hope what your best is, is too much for your opponent. do not go into any match with some burden to win. you have to deserve to win a match. that takes practice, and tournament experience. there are people like pc chris, and m2k out there. only a hand few can beat them.

plus you should involve yourself in more things besides smash to make your life less depressing.

 

[Scott!]

Detachment is not fun. I tend to lapse into periods of it every few months or so. But take my word for it; it really is worth it to have social interaction. We often define ourselves by how we are perceived by others. Someday, hopefully, you'll meet people who will inspire you to break out of your shell. And they may not be around forever, or even that long. But it just might be worth it in the end. I know I had a special someone once. This person made me enjoy life in a way that I hadn't before. It was eye-opening. And then, they were gone from my life. Not permanently, but for all intents and purposes, pretty much so. And I miss those days. But I don't regret them. Don't give up on people completely just because of some experiences. Especially if you're in high school. Things change after graduation. People you thought you knew will change. And you might like them better for it.

/end rambling

Plus, Smash 1-player's no fun compared to with people. (:

 

[Darxmarth23]

I was suffering from detatchment at quite an earl age. I stopped caring about the people around me like my friends and my family.

Untill i met her....

 

[Omis]

I was suffering from detatchment at quite an earl age. I stopped caring about the people around me like my friends and my family.

Untill i met her....

Obvious bait is obvious.

 

[NintendoMan07]

Well, what I advice you to do is to play other games casually with your friends. No I gotta win attitude, just mess around, laugh at people's mistakes, if you're three gang up on the other guy, and just have a good time.

Once you get that down, that sense of casualness, then try out Brawl, (cause melee is serious business matter) pick some character, doesn't have to be one you're good at. Take me for example, lets say we're playing with our best characters. We finish the game, and I pick bowser. I start the match and I'm just looking to bowsercide. You have to have that sense of comfort with your friends, they ain't gonna judge you

Well, I only have... well, one or two friends. And also, I guess I ought to clarify that I play Brawl, but I just chose to... not incite something that wasn't wanted when I used "Smash". I'm actually in a semi-detatched phase right now, considering that topic. I dunno, the dynamic I have with people in general is... awkward. I'm completely conscious of my word choice, my actions, my behavior, everything. And it gets to the point where... well, not only do I not APPEAR confident, but I don't FEEL confident. So... I just sometimes feel like it's better to not put up with people at all, but I KNOW that I can't keep that up my entire life. That's part of why I chose to obsess over Smash: to get over my detatchment issues. Unfortunately, just the... idea of being GRADED by my opponent is enough to just send me back to being a misanthrope.

Getting away from my rant though, you really do have a good idea... I'm even considering playing one of my friends (who I happened to meet online through Brawl) on a consistent basis again. The problem is... well, online Brawl is just a joke around here. I mean, I don't guess I SHOULD care, but I figure the only friends I might be making from here on out is... well, guys/gals like you. People who play competitively. So... it's almost like I'm trying to work toward some kind of approval from Smashboards. And playing with my friend (who's better than me, yet still a scrub) isn't gonna help that.

nintendoman dont quit playing smash. and its ok if something makes you upset. things that matter do that sometimes and you just gotta stop being soft to it. you kind of have to get over being nervous and that comes with confidence and acceptance of weakness. its ok to lose first of all. second you have to let go of the idea of being a challenge for your opponent. because there is no limit to how good your opponent could be. what you have to do is just play and do your best, and hope what your best is, is too much for your opponent. do not go into any match with some burden to win. you have to deserve to win a match. that takes practice, and tournament experience. there are people like pc chris, and m2k out there. only a hand few can beat them.

plus you should involve yourself in more things besides smash to make your life less depressing.

On losing... well, sure, it's okay. I mean, I never EXPECTED to have a perfect win record. I may be a perfectionist, but I'm still a realist too. The thing is... I don't have a loss or two, I have a whole STEAK (sorry Sonic mains, I HAD to steal that...) of losses. Heck, I think I quit counting after about 10. At this point, I don't really HAVE an excuse/john/whatever. I can't just say, "Well, I'm just starting out, so it'll get better". I've had this since March. I have NEVER won anything that "counts". Now, my friend, if he tolerated this place long enough to post, would probably flame me to death for that, because he believes that I should somehow take some kind of credit for winning a few FFAs w/ items against him. But that doesn't fly here.

I dunno, I sometimes get to this point where... I just stop thinking about it. I just do something else. But then, eventually, that nagging "you FAIL at BRAWL" feeling comes back. It just gets to a point where... it becomes almost IMPOSSIBLE to just forget about it and move on.

As far as school goes (just so I don't completely derail this), I'm doing better. TGIF indeed. I think I can pick myself back up this weekend if I stay focused.

If someone responds to this, PLEASE go back to my first post and directly address some of the questions I bring up. I can't read the general attitude of Smashboards real well at all, and I REALLY want to get to the bottom of this. If necessary, I can rephrase the questions in a later post.

 

[Kinzer]

post.

... So... you look back on the good times?

Hrm... I'm more of a "realistic" person if you will, as in I forget what happened in the past, because what's done is done, and what matters to me is now. This is just me, but apparently I have either never met that person as of yet, or I want to deny ever meeting that person if I have which I have accomplished... I don't remember some of my friends I had like in Elementary school, and I want to deny these two girl friends I had in high school...

...Why am I trying to deny their existence to begin with...? Their presense did afterall make classes a whole lot less unbearable, that I realise was oh so very true, however... it just-... it just seems like that there's no point in trying be socially happy because it's not worth it if you always get the same end result but worse...

I suppose once I get a little bit older, and just believe it when people say that after highschool friendships aren't as temporary.

As for how I could be defined... I'm nobody... I'm just "that kid" for whatever event I go to... If even I myself don't know who I am, how can I expect other people to define me...? Perhaps that is because of my lack of social life.

I have not given up an humanity enitrely... as of yett... I know tehre are good people out there... but it seems like they either aren't there, I'm the only one, or I am one of those who have been entrusted with faith and lost the chance to uphold it... I'm not even sure anymore...

Thank you for your reply, but as depressing as things may seem from my end... I'm still happy and I enjoy life... I just wish that I could find out what exactly my problems were... a reply to this reply would be nice. ^_^

 

[Skrah]

Well, NintendoMan, it IS about skill, in some ways.

But when you are with your friends, its just like a practice session. You need to do your best, but don't fret about it if you lose.

When I first played melee competitively, I had this buddy, so he and me decided to get better with all the new tricks. After 1 week of both of us practicing in our respective houses, we played.

At that time, tiers didn't exist to me. I picked Link, my favorite hero of all time. It was just bad luck that he was low tier. Well, apparently, my friend chose a top tier. Not cause he liked him, he didn't even know who the **** he was, but if it made him win, then he didn't care.

So he chose Falco, and he totally kicked my ***. I was so heartbroken ( I had 10 at that time ) that even though I had practiced he had won so easily. I started getting nervous, and angry at the same time. After a while he got bored of winning and was like, "Man you suck lets play another thing." After that, I realised that I couldn't let him get away with it, so I said "No, lets play one more time". I took a deep breath and just trusted in myself. I won, He wanted another go. I won again. He got nervous. I won even easier. I won so many times he flung the controller away.

What I'm trying to say, no matter how bad you are, or how hard you are beaten, if you get nervous and start thinking about what he might be thinking about you, you'll never get better. YOU need to analyze YOUR own mistakes, let them analyze theirs. After that, just practice, practice, practice, either alone or with friends.

About the social aspect, just be open at all times. If you lose, shake his hand and say good game. Maybe even throw in a compliment or two. If you win, don't get arrogant and be a good winner. Also outside of smash, make other friends, that like other stuff that you too like. I have my smash friends, but so do I have my soccer friends, and my school friends. Just be OPEN. Hope my blabbering helped.

 

[Martel Hammer]

I have lost what little faith I had in the human race. I know, it's dumb to bring valuable stuff to public places like school, yet now I have become absolutely paranoid. Yesterday some hick (probably) stole my Zune out of my backpack. Now, I and several other classmates had to go next door for some stuff, and backpacks weren't allowed in there. So, long story short, someone jacked my mp3 player from my unattended backpack. Yes, it was dumb, yes, I shouldn't have brought it in the first place. I have learned my lesson, and I have converted to the Cynical religion, following in the footsteps of such great people as Alexander Hamilton.

 

[Scott!]

... So... you look back on the good times?

Hrm... I'm more of a "realistic" person if you will, as in I forget what happened in the past, because what's done is done, and what matters to me is now. This is just me, but apparently I have either never met that person as of yet, or I want to deny ever meeting that person if I have which I have accomplished... I don't remember some of my friends I had like in Elementary school, and I want to deny these two girl friends I had in high school...

...Why am I trying to deny their existence to begin with...? Their presense did afterall make classes a whole lot less unbearable, that I realise was oh so very true, however... it just-... it just seems like that there's no point in trying be socially happy because it's not worth it if you always get the same end result but worse...

I suppose once I get a little bit older, and just believe it when people say that after highschool friendships aren't as temporary.

As for how I could be defined... I'm nobody... I'm just "that kid" for whatever event I go to... If even I myself don't know who I am, how can I expect other people to define me...? Perhaps that is because of my lack of social life.

I have not given up an humanity enitrely... as of yett... I know tehre are good people out there... but it seems like they either aren't there, I'm the only one, or I am one of those who have been entrusted with faith and lost the chance to uphold it... I'm not even sure anymore...

Thank you for your reply, but as depressing as things may seem from my end... I'm still happy and I enjoy life... I just wish that I could find out what exactly my problems were... a reply to this reply would be nice. ^_^

A reply to a reply to a reply? Sure, why not. ^__^

Hm, you say you're realistic and live in the now. That is a good way to do it, and brooding on the past is definitely not the best way to spend one's time. But I personally can't deny my old friendships, etc. I had friends that weren't very good friends at all, and friendships that didn't end well, but I don't forget them.

As for me looking back on the old times, it's sort of that. But sort of not. It's like, I look at my current situation. I've got friends, and they're great friends, but I lack that one person with whom I really click completely. I had someone like that once. I do look back and all that, but it's also that I use it as a way to remind myself that there are people out there like that.

Friendships after high school are different. In college, things are different. You're with a whole new group of people, and you aren't forced into groups by circumstance as much as in high school. You're freer to choose who you associate with. Thus, things are more likely to be permanent, or at least longer-lived. It's also a lot easier to just... let people go. In high school, you have to see them every day, and the more you want to avoid someone, the more often you'll see them in the halls. In college... you could almost never see them at all. All this makes social life both more demanding and rewarding.

You're not nobody. I'm not saying that as soeone trying to cheer you up. But seriously, no person is a nobody. And when I say that how we are with people can define us, it's not that I let others define who I am. It's more that we define ourselves by our actions. Sure, I am not always myself in social situations, but the way I act is how I present myself to others. I may not even like the way I act, but I act that way anyway, and must later reconcile that with my opinion of myself.

I personally am a person who needs meaningful social interaction in my life to be happy, but I know there are people out there who can go it alone more easily than I can. If you're happy alone, then I'm not gonna tell you what to do. I'm just going to say to not give up hope on people yet. I'm not even sure if I really answered anything; I just kind of took different things you said and rambled about them, but there it is.

 

[Bowser_Gangsta]

Stop turning around in class to talk to me about **** I already now. I don't care about your band life, which I'm in and know all about, or middle school stories about friends I no longer care about. I swear to any lord above that if I'm reading or working don't call my name seven times until I have to force a fake laugh. And find your **** BOOK!

Also, I can't fastfall anymore... D=

 

[Darxmarth23]

Obvious bait is obvious.

My life changed, I'm happy now, and i care about people. It all worked out for me.

 

[Deleted member]

One of my middle school friends showed up at my door the other day and asked to live with me! Last I'd seen of him, he was going to join the Air Force. He got rejected by the Air Force and has been homeless and unemployed living in Flint, Michigan (near Detroit). Thing is, I don't want him here. My new little family was enjoying some alone time when he showed up. Oh, he doesn't even help pay for the bills! He's a freeloader living off me! And he had the nerve to bring home a girl he met in a bar, and then proceeded to sleep with her on my couch! I'm afraid if I kick him out, he'll hurt us or something, so that's why I didn't kick him out earlier.

Any advice?

 

[Sonic The Hedgedawg]

My best male friend and my best female friend are now dating. I feel so happy that they are so happy, but at the same time, I feel like I've kind of lost them both.... you know?

 

[ExCeL 52]

I live in Texas and was born in Canada.. I have a slight accent whenever I say hOUse or OUt... I pronounce the OU different then ******* in the south... also I sad rAg and wAgon ...Im using proper English and they are not.. Im going to kill everyone .. HELP

 

[ExCeL 52]

One of my middle school friends showed up at my door the other day and asked to live with me! Last I'd seen of him, he was going to join the Air Force. He got rejected by the Air Force and has been homeless and unemployed living in Flint, Michigan (near Detroit). Thing is, I don't want him here. My new little family was enjoying some alone time when he showed up. Oh, he doesn't even help pay for the bills! He's a freeloader living off me! And he had the nerve to bring home a girl he met in a bar, and then proceeded to sleep with her on my couch! I'm afraid if I kick him out, he'll hurt us or something, so that's why I didn't kick him out earlier.

Any advice?

Thats a really bad situation..Ugh.. find out what he doesn't like and do it alot so he doesn't feel welcome and leaves?

 

[Mith_]

My best male friend and my best female friend are now dating. I feel so happy that they are so happy, but at the same time, I feel like I've kind of lost them both.... you know?

Yes I know. Try to hang out with them when you can.

 

[Deleted member]

Thats a really bad situation..Ugh.. find out what he doesn't like and do it alot so he doesn't feel welcome and leaves?

I think he hates dogs so I should buy 6 Great Danes or something.

 

[ExCeL 52]

I think he hates dogs so I should buy 6 Great Danes or something.

Yeah or read him the Hound of the Baskervilles as a bed time story.

 

[Sonic The Hedgedawg]

Yes I know. Try to hang out with them when you can.

oh I do... but ben and I used to be inseperable.... but he's not having 5 hour makeout sessions with ME you know... I obviously can't be around him as much as I used to.

 

[The Fail Tracer]

Right. Where to begin?

I was just playing Earthworm Jim 3D, a game that is extremely hard at some points but I still enjoy it, and I just made it past one of the hardest points in the game, while collecting all the marbles and stuff. I was sweating from being scared that I would die, and then when I finally made it, my game got screwed up and froze. You can't save without quitting, either.

I'm bored all the fricking time. My Donkey Kong 64 game isn't getting here in the mail till sometime next week, which I had gotten all my hopes up for. When that game gets here, I won't be bored for a while. It could've gotten here yesterday, or even Friday. But no, I just have to be bored all the time... I guess boredom isn't enough of a problem to get me any sympathy, but still, it really sucks.

We have no water in the house, and we have almost no money.

On top of all this, the guy who called himself my stepdad and always made me feel miserable keeps invading my thoughts. Even though he's gone from my life, he will never leave my horrid memories of him.

 

[notftomearth7]

I'm taking a vow of silence, I'm always ignored all the time. Should I end it, or not?

 

[Circus]

Well, if it's done you no good (as I suspect it hasn't), then yeah, I'd say so.

If you're being ignored, the only way to be heard is to speak up.

 

[Solaris1110]

Well, if it's done you no good (as I suspect it hasn't), then yeah, I'd say so.

If you're being ignored, the only way to be heard is to speak up.

Yeah I used to think that I was always ignored, which kinda fractured my confidence in talking, but then I just trained myself to talk extra loud. **** I couldn't believe the difference lol.

 

[Takumaru]

I think he hates dogs so I should buy 6 Great Danes or something.

Yes. Buy 6 great danes, a shot gun, and maybe 1 rottweiler for good measure. After you have those 7-8 things THEN you kick him out. Seriously I had something similar happen to me in highschool. A random kid from my school just appeared on my door step, free loaded for a week and disappeared. A month later he showed up again. I told him to go away and the next morning I woke up to find him sleeping on my porch. So I jabbed him in the ribs to wake him up and told him he had 10 seconds to get the hell out of this neighborhood or I'd call the cops. When that didn't phase him I told him he had 7 seconds to get off my porch before I let both my dogs loose on him. He didn't take me seriously so I put my black lab on a leash and ordered him to attack. Wilbur (the dog) wasn't going to hurt him. He was on his leash he just flashed his teeth and growled a lot, but it scared him enough that I haven't seen him since. As soon as I get my own place I'm going to get at least two dogs.

 

[Omis]

Now that I've asked the girl I like to the dance, I dont know what to do now. The chase was great but what is next?

 

[DtJ Jungle]

Nothing's different. Just be you, if she's going to want to go out with you, you should always show the true you. I think that's what most girls want to see anyway. Don't make any advances too quickly. Just feel things out :D

 

[Teran]

Right. Where to begin?

I was just playing Earthworm Jim 3D, a game that is extremely hard at some points but I still enjoy it, and I just made it past one of the hardest points in the game, while collecting all the marbles and stuff. I was sweating from being scared that I would die, and then when I finally made it, my game got screwed up and froze. You can't save without quitting, either.

I'm bored all the fricking time. My Donkey Kong 64 game isn't getting here in the mail till sometime next week, which I had gotten all my hopes up for. When that game gets here, I won't be bored for a while. It could've gotten here yesterday, or even Friday. But no, I just have to be bored all the time... I guess boredom isn't enough of a problem to get me any sympathy, but still, it really sucks.

We have no water in the house, and we have almost no money.

On top of all this, the guy who called himself my stepdad and always made me feel miserable keeps invading my thoughts. Even though he's gone from my life, he will never leave my horrid memories of him.

Dude, DK64 is worth the wait. I got that game in 1999 and I still enjoy it as much as the day I got it. That game is s platforming masterpiece. So chin up, life will be complete once you own that game. That's right, everything horrible in life can be dissolved by that game, no lies.

 

[Mic_128]

Now that I've asked the girl I like to the dance, I dont know what to do now. The chase was great but what is next?

Are we to take it that you were successful?

 

[DtJ Jungle]

yah..i just sort of made that assumption...i figured he wouldnt have posted it if he wasnt, or it would've been worded differently.

 

[Levitas]

I HATE dirty snow. I think it represents about 90% of what I have a problem with in this world.

 

[hectichobo]

I hate dirty snow too! I also hate when a mod closes your thread and doesn't post the reason for it being closed in the thread. (coughmymusicthreadwhoimprettyshureazuaclosedcausehehatesmecough)

 

[Azua]

I'm a girl you ******.

Your music thread needs to go IN THE RIGHT ROOM, which about 5 people had already told you in the thread.
Regardless, keep your issues with moderation OUT of this thread. It's not what it's here for.


On topic:

My puppy's left eye is extremely irritated and weepy because his eyelashes constantly poke him in the eye. I hate trimming them, but I do it.
I'm going to the vet when he hits 4 months and ask him what I should do about it.

 

[Levitas]

I went home this weekend and my cat had licked a portion of her leg clean of fur. And somehow my family had missed it. I noticed within a second of seeing her. WTF, are they blind?

 

[Azua]

My parents miss all kinds of things with the cats

One of them is like 14 now, so I go over to their house every couple of days to make sure she's doing alright.
One time her paws were actually so dry from the new litter they bought that they were cracking. And of course, nobody noticed how painful it was for her to walk or get on the couch or chairs. -_-

 

[Omis]

Are we to take it that you were successful?

Thankfully I was successful.

 

[pyrotek7x7]

I don't need to vent. My life is almost perfect right now. Anything I would vent about is still nothing bad at all compared to some other people and their problems.

Although I do think it's annoying when a guy has an avatar or signature with the picture of a female on it and I think they too are female. It's quite perplexing.

 

[Mic_128]

Thankfully I was successful.

Well, if you liked the persuit, now there's other dates to ask her out on and more!