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I think you should try talking to him about it and try to really get through to him.
Perhaps calling a number hotline for advice might benefit you some.
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Perhaps calling a number hotline for advice might benefit you some.
Dude, like im not even kidding, we're both going though.(went tho for my case) the same thing.
I was with this one girl, for 6 months, i was her first kiss, first make-out, first like reall BF. and when we break up,(she dumped me) she got with someone who she know for 5 weeeks
-__-, i was like wth, and i was going though what your going though right now, You feel like nothing really mattered right.? that all that was a waste of time.? that to her it didnt mean anything.? Thats what i was going for, But turned out the dude that she went with was a total *** and jerk and she dumped him, then i asked her out on hallweeen,. but a day before that we had a serious convo, and she was just telling me everything, how that she regects breacking up with me. and yeah. Were back together now. Stronger than ever. We went about a month without dating but we stayed best friends. :]<3. anywho, the best adive i could give you, is just MAKE SHURE you guys stay friends, and make shure that the guy shes with now isnt a jerk, and also ask yourself, do you want her happy.? Do you love just seeing her smile.? and honestly be happy.? if you do, then just let her decied, thats what i did, and turns out were going out again..
and btw how old you are.?. lol jsut asking cuz since were going though/went tho the same thingg.
I'm hoping she'll end up deciding she prefers him as a friend and gives me another chance.
Glad to hear things worked out between the two of you.
I do want her to decide, and I'm not going to try to force things. When it comes to these things people can't help but be selfish though. I want her to be happy. With me.
I'm 18.
Glad to hear things worked out between the two of you.
I do want her to decide, and I'm not going to try to force things. When it comes to these things people can't help but be selfish though. I want her to be happy. With me.
I'm 18.
lol im 15 =p.
anyway i understand were you coming from. and if you love this chick enogh just wait, if it was meant to be, it will happen, and it feels SOO good when it doesn, i remeber when i kissed my girl after the month we were broken up, i want to relive that kiss over and over again,
but just remeber to stay friends with her. and always remind her that no matter what, you will always have her back. even when times are rough like this, you have to keep your cool, and not let this get into your soical life. But make shure she knows that you care. like Alot.
thats what girls love to hear, that you care.
i hope i can help out dude, i know what your going though right now, and i know it sucks, if you have any questions, or anything eles, just PM me, or AIM me.
i know we dont know each other, but were going/ went to the same thing, and i think out of everyone looking at this thread, i can help you out the most.
hope it helps.!
Brightside6382
Smash Lord
First of all, no offense but use paragraphs next time you decide to write an essay out. It makes it easier to read and doesn't **** with your eyes as much as you read it.
I read your later post and saw your 18 so I'm going to safely assume your probably still in High School. I'll just be as blunt as possible. Your young, she's going to break up with him, it probably wouldn't have worked out with you, you all go to college, the end.
Your still young you don't know what you want yet. I'm guessing this is probably one of your first more intimate relationships so your just having a hard time letting go. That's completely normal and there's nothing to be embarrassed about.
Don't wait for her because she won't be waiting for you. Go out and meet new people. You'll soon find that you'll meet someone else and you'll look back at this and just laugh at how silly the whole thing was.
Overlord, what you said in your last sentences is what you should do: Wait it out and build your relationship with her. I think that's probably one of the best things you could do.
And listen to Brightside. Great advice by them -nods-
And listen to Brightside. Great advice by them -nods-
Yink
The Robo-PSIentist
Alright, I've got a problem...
So I'm a student in a Design College. I was sick because I got H1N1 (which isn't surprising really, it's going around campus).
I missed last Monday because of it, and I missed an exam. I emailed the professor on Sunday in the afternoon saying I'd gone to the Student Health Center and they wouldn't allow me to go to class. He sent me a reply on Monday morning before the exam and said, "I'm so sorry to hear you got H1N1, but I don't give make-up exams in this class."
That's a load of ****. I got a 0 on a 100 point exam BECAUSE I WAS FOLLOWING MEDICAL ORDERS. I even told him I went to the Health Center and they wouldn't allow me to go to class. I have to talk to the Dean of Students for my college but he's not in the state at the moment, and my Adviser told me to talk to him.
What should I do now?
So I'm a student in a Design College. I was sick because I got H1N1 (which isn't surprising really, it's going around campus).
I missed last Monday because of it, and I missed an exam. I emailed the professor on Sunday in the afternoon saying I'd gone to the Student Health Center and they wouldn't allow me to go to class. He sent me a reply on Monday morning before the exam and said, "I'm so sorry to hear you got H1N1, but I don't give make-up exams in this class."
That's a load of ****. I got a 0 on a 100 point exam BECAUSE I WAS FOLLOWING MEDICAL ORDERS. I even told him I went to the Health Center and they wouldn't allow me to go to class. I have to talk to the Dean of Students for my college but he's not in the state at the moment, and my Adviser told me to talk to him.
What should I do now?
I apologize about not breaking it up. It occurred to me but I just didn't for some reason. I'll edit that. I'm done with high school; I'm in my first year of college. I just can't take your advice about not waiting for her though. I'm not one to give up without trying. I see my goal as within the realm of possibility.
I'm not going to live in the illusion that it's 100% certain I'll have her back. That's unrealistic. I do plan to stay friends with her.
Contrary to what DARE and TV commercials would have you believe, there's really nothing wrong with smoking marijuana. It is only a problem if it's interfering with other aspects of life, but then, this can be said of anything (video games, TV, alcohol, internet, etc). This is coming from someone who doesn't use marijuana, by the way.
Yeah, because having an opinion, knowledge, and experience constitutes brainwashing.
You're dumb.
If you were smart enough to actually research the effects of recreational marijuana use we wouldn't be having this conversation.
This is hardly a controversial topic.
Lol, while I agree with you RDK, try to refrain from petty insults.
Let's drop the weed talk right now, guys. It won't convince anyone of anything and this isn't a debate thread.
Let's drop the weed talk right now, guys. It won't convince anyone of anything and this isn't a debate thread.
I think my situation has caused my emotions to "turn off." I don't feel anything right now. Earlier today though, I kind of went ballistic over something really dumb. That was the most enraged I've been in a long time, and I didn't really have a reason to be. Now I'm feeling nothing.
MattDotZeb
Smash Hero
Brace for girlfriend fueled rant.
We hit a bit of a rough spot lately. It basically came to light after I went to one of the final nights of Game Universe (Store I've run tournaments at for 2 years, running over 20, that closed recently) with a few smashers instead of going to a dance with her that was apparently completely casual except for the fact it was senior dress up day which would have made it amazing that she didn't tell me. Anyway, I let her now early into the day and she starts saying I ditched her, yelling at me, calling me an ***, etc.
That was the day before Halloween, btw.
Then **** hit the fan when I was too stubborn to apologize, and told her to go away while I was at a party on halloween night.
She started saying how I'd been treating her badly in the last month and everything. Saying how I'm pushing her away. She likes me enough to talk it out with me and wants me to be open with her but whenever I tell her what I'm really feeling apparently it counts as pushing her away, despite when we started going out when I told her those things she would support me and calm my fears. I wish she'd still do that. We got into a few more arguments last week. We haven't had sex since she got on the pill, and I was prepared for a month of no sex anyway (For those who don't know you gotta wait a month to use no condom), but I eventually began to be bothered by a lack of sex saying how I don't want to go a month without it. Yeah, that was pretty dumb because I was basically whining and we all know how much girls love a whiner right? They don't.
Well, at the time I guess I didn't realize that. She's recently told me she isn't too much into sex, and that's why we haven't had it lately. My birthday weekend came up last weekend, and I'm thinking I finally get to try it out without the condom. lol wrong, period to the face. Then she leaves early the next day to go to her dads, and I got pretty upset over that and kind of took it out on her. Fueled by the fact it was my birthday weekend and her being with me would have been really nice instead of leaving me all bothered by the fact she left to see her dads cuz he didn't see her wednesday.
I did admit the other day that was wrong of me and all, and I guess she took the apology. Sunday we had a pretty nice conversation, reminded me of when we first started going out. Then throughout all of today I didn't get a single message from her. The reason I didn't send one to her is because I wanted to see if she'd start a conversation with me, which means she would want to talk to me. She didn't, and I didn't get anything from her which said goodnight. That... didn't really sit well with me.
My last few relationships ended somewhat like this. Minus the arguments. I have no idea how to respond the arguments. I really love this girl, and she's a great catch. I'm determined to not have it end like this.
But, as it stands I'm getting hurt by this relationship and I'm doing my best to try to fix it and I have no idea how to. I'm trying to put all those feelings behind me, and act.. normal, and it's really hard. I guess it's not how I am. It feels like I'm bottling things up and when I'm not with her I'm ready to explode, which hasn't occurred until recently..
I figure if we pull out of this then we'll be all good and happy, but I just gotta figure out how to.
<end rant/help-me post>
Um, nobody really needs to read that but I wouldn't mind anybody PMing me or replying in this thread with advice or whatevers.
Also I feel a lot better after posting this.
We hit a bit of a rough spot lately. It basically came to light after I went to one of the final nights of Game Universe (Store I've run tournaments at for 2 years, running over 20, that closed recently) with a few smashers instead of going to a dance with her that was apparently completely casual except for the fact it was senior dress up day which would have made it amazing that she didn't tell me. Anyway, I let her now early into the day and she starts saying I ditched her, yelling at me, calling me an ***, etc.
That was the day before Halloween, btw.
Then **** hit the fan when I was too stubborn to apologize, and told her to go away while I was at a party on halloween night.
She started saying how I'd been treating her badly in the last month and everything. Saying how I'm pushing her away. She likes me enough to talk it out with me and wants me to be open with her but whenever I tell her what I'm really feeling apparently it counts as pushing her away, despite when we started going out when I told her those things she would support me and calm my fears. I wish she'd still do that. We got into a few more arguments last week. We haven't had sex since she got on the pill, and I was prepared for a month of no sex anyway (For those who don't know you gotta wait a month to use no condom), but I eventually began to be bothered by a lack of sex saying how I don't want to go a month without it. Yeah, that was pretty dumb because I was basically whining and we all know how much girls love a whiner right? They don't.
Well, at the time I guess I didn't realize that. She's recently told me she isn't too much into sex, and that's why we haven't had it lately. My birthday weekend came up last weekend, and I'm thinking I finally get to try it out without the condom. lol wrong, period to the face. Then she leaves early the next day to go to her dads, and I got pretty upset over that and kind of took it out on her. Fueled by the fact it was my birthday weekend and her being with me would have been really nice instead of leaving me all bothered by the fact she left to see her dads cuz he didn't see her wednesday.
I did admit the other day that was wrong of me and all, and I guess she took the apology. Sunday we had a pretty nice conversation, reminded me of when we first started going out. Then throughout all of today I didn't get a single message from her. The reason I didn't send one to her is because I wanted to see if she'd start a conversation with me, which means she would want to talk to me. She didn't, and I didn't get anything from her which said goodnight. That... didn't really sit well with me.
My last few relationships ended somewhat like this. Minus the arguments. I have no idea how to respond the arguments. I really love this girl, and she's a great catch. I'm determined to not have it end like this.
But, as it stands I'm getting hurt by this relationship and I'm doing my best to try to fix it and I have no idea how to. I'm trying to put all those feelings behind me, and act.. normal, and it's really hard. I guess it's not how I am. It feels like I'm bottling things up and when I'm not with her I'm ready to explode, which hasn't occurred until recently..
I figure if we pull out of this then we'll be all good and happy, but I just gotta figure out how to.
<end rant/help-me post>
Um, nobody really needs to read that but I wouldn't mind anybody PMing me or replying in this thread with advice or whatevers.
Also I feel a lot better after posting this.
Proverbs
Smash Lord
I'll message you on Facebook. We'll sort this out soon.
Ladybug
Smash Lord
First off: Sex is an important part of a relationship if you've already had it. If the relationship has never ventured there then its no problem, but if you did it before, then it is important. If it just stops for no real reason (I mean she could have helped you out some other way for that month... and on top of that you still could have been doing it with a condom) means there's something wrong with her. She's either not into you physically or emotionally... And from the rest of that post it sounds more emotionally than physically.
When my last relationship ended it started with lack of sex (because I wasn't getting what I needed emotionally and therefore he wasn't getting what he needed physically) and then proceeded to not talking as much (as in your lack of txt), and then just not seeing each other period (as in your birthday). I would say you really need to talk to her about how you feel. Don't make it about how she's making you feel, but how you feel. "I feel this." And "I feel that". Not "well you're making me feel this way" and so on. You can say "when you do this, I feel..." but it can't sound like an attack cause that will bring up defenses and that goes no where good fast. But you -have- to talk to her because it's sounding like she's just not into you that much anymore... if at all. She's being knitpicky, looking for reasons to fight, not talking to you period... All signs that she's moved on (not to someone else, just not in love with you).
A relationship should never feel forced or that you are just going through the motions. And you say you're trying to "act normal" which is -insanely- not healthy because it will cause you to resent her in the end for acting this way and not allowing you to talk. Communication is the key to having a strong relationship and you really need to open those lines. And then let whatever happen with it happen.
If you wanna talk more (sometimes it helps when you have an outside source... I don't know you or her.
) you can PM me, find me on AIM (youftw), or Facebook me (Monica Clayton, it's a picture of my cat). 
I'll help if I can.
When my last relationship ended it started with lack of sex (because I wasn't getting what I needed emotionally and therefore he wasn't getting what he needed physically) and then proceeded to not talking as much (as in your lack of txt), and then just not seeing each other period (as in your birthday). I would say you really need to talk to her about how you feel. Don't make it about how she's making you feel, but how you feel. "I feel this." And "I feel that". Not "well you're making me feel this way" and so on. You can say "when you do this, I feel..." but it can't sound like an attack cause that will bring up defenses and that goes no where good fast. But you -have- to talk to her because it's sounding like she's just not into you that much anymore... if at all. She's being knitpicky, looking for reasons to fight, not talking to you period... All signs that she's moved on (not to someone else, just not in love with you).
A relationship should never feel forced or that you are just going through the motions. And you say you're trying to "act normal" which is -insanely- not healthy because it will cause you to resent her in the end for acting this way and not allowing you to talk. Communication is the key to having a strong relationship and you really need to open those lines. And then let whatever happen with it happen.
If you wanna talk more (sometimes it helps when you have an outside source... I don't know you or her.
) you can PM me, find me on AIM (youftw), or Facebook me (Monica Clayton, it's a picture of my cat). I'll help if I can.
Yink
The Robo-PSIentist
I sent you a PM. Hopefully it helped you.
MattDotZeb
Smash Hero
After talking to Ladybug and Yink for a bit I feel incredibly so much better.
Yink is really upbeat and everything she said was very encouraging. Ladybug has great advice about things that may be going on in your girls head, and how you can get them out and bring yourselves closer in the process.
I wish the rep system was still in place, I'd definitely give you both some.
Yink is really upbeat and everything she said was very encouraging. Ladybug has great advice about things that may be going on in your girls head, and how you can get them out and bring yourselves closer in the process.
I wish the rep system was still in place, I'd definitely give you both some.
MattDotZeb
Smash Hero
Urg... nevermind that last post. She just broke up with me..........
Oh well.
Oh well.
From the way it sounded
It sounds like it's for the best.
Sorry to hear it though.
It sounds like it's for the best.
Sorry to hear it though.
MattDotZeb
Smash Hero
Yeah, it sucks. Whatever. I'm not going to make a huge deal out of it.
MattDotSad
Blizzard Flames
Smash Cadet
I was suspended from my catholic all boys school today for punching another freshmen(yes, I'm a freshmen) twice for bullying me with the whole sophomore class.
Sorry for it to go down the way it did Matt. I hope you feel better. =(
¯\_S.(ツ).L.I.D._/¯
Smash Legend
Sorry to hear about it Matt... Fell better soon
Yeah so this is pretty unimportant and yet it's really pissing me off. My iTunes is not playing with volume. My computer volume is on, as is the iTunes volume. But it still won't play with volume... ****'s dumb.
Yeah so this is pretty unimportant and yet it's really pissing me off. My iTunes is not playing with volume. My computer volume is on, as is the iTunes volume. But it still won't play with volume... ****'s dumb.
Vrael - Maybe its your sound card?
Blizzard - >_> I hope you can avoid that situation in the future >_<.
Blizzard - >_> I hope you can avoid that situation in the future >_<.
¯\_S.(ツ).L.I.D._/¯
Smash Legend
I quit iTunes and started it back up and now it's working fine, lol.
Crisis averted. I'm dumb sometimes.
Crisis averted. I'm dumb sometimes.
MattDotZeb
Smash Hero
Thanks guys. But it's whatever. I already have another girl lined up. It's not much use trying to be with somebody who doesn't have any feelings for you.
CRASHiC
Smash Hero
My wisdom teeth are coming in >_< so this is what babies feel like.
Ladybug
Smash Lord
MattDotZeb... I'm so sorry man. <3
I hope you're doing well. You're still welcome to talk to me if you want.
<3I hope you're doing well. You're still welcome to talk to me if you want.
MattDotZeb
Smash Hero
Yeah I'll definitely talk to you more when I see you online. More friends are always good~ =D
Sephiroths Masamune
Shocodoro Blagshidect
I had mine pulled it hurt alot!
Scott!
Smash Lord
I had mine pulled, and never had any relevant pain at all thanks to being unconscious for the procedure and to my diligent application of an ice pack to my face for the next few days to keep down the swelling and such. Best surgery ever.
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