Something bothering you?

[DTP]

After talking extensively with Pluvia about this I decided to tell you guys something.

I'm bisexual and literally no one I interact with in real life knows.Plus I'm **** scared to tell any of my friends/family because I know things will never be the same.

I mean so many people will probably talk **** behind your back and will probably treat you differently.
I can't deal with people treating me differently or thinking less of me because of it.

Join the cluuub.
I've only told 4 people irl that I'm gay, and they're all girls. Two of which are bi and like, my best friends so they barely count lol

Telling anyone else like my guy friends or my family intimidates me to no end.
So I just won't tell them
They'll find out when they find out, but as of now it's none of their business

At least that's what I keep telling myself lol

 

[Cherry64]

Join the cluuub.
I've only told 4 people irl that I'm gay, and they're all girls. Two of which are bi and like, my best friends so they barely count lol

Telling anyone else like my guy friends or my family intimidates me to no end.
So I just won't tell them
They'll find out when they find out, but as of now it's none of their business

At least that's what I keep telling myself lol

you don't have to worry Darren, your fears are rational that's for sure, but most of your friends will be okay with it, I've met some cool dudes that I didn't even know were gay at the time, and guess what everyone, holy moly! they're the exact same. I don't understand all the gay-hate mongering, it's bloody stupid.

Anyways! this'll prolly make you blush because you didn't think I go on here anymore, but your secrets safe with me . Once again sorry for spilling chili on yo shorts

 

[DTP]

LOL
****........

Didn't think about you seeing this at all xD
Oh well, whatever haha
One less person to tell.

Don't worry about the shorts though. It's funny as hell now lmao
How many people can honestly say they've been covered by an exploding can of chili xD


EDIT: Yeah I probably blushed a bit lol

 

[Cherry64]

LOL
****........

Didn't think about you seeing this at all xD
Oh well, whatever haha
One less person to tell.

Don't worry about the shorts though. It's funny as hell now lmao
How many people can honestly say they've been covered by an exploding can of chili xD


EDIT: Yeah I probably blushed a bit lol

Hahahaha it's all good man I don't judge vic and tony can see it too though just so you know. it'll feel good for you to tell people, make life soo much easier, Have you told Vania yet?

OH MAN WE SHOULD HIT UP A CLUB! you can be my wingman

 

[Fuelbi]

Im pissed off at my dad for getting me a detention because I came late to school to much due to the fact he takes too long.

And he criticizes me for being slow

*headdesk*

 

[DTP]

Nah, I don't give a **** if anyone else sees it. Actually, out of everyone on this site, I just didn't want you and my brother to know I was a ***. My brother never comes here anymore though so I'm safe, I think.

Btw, I'm sure Vic knows already, don't know who tony is, and I don't care about what's her face lol


Also, **** yeah! I'd be a pro wingman. It'd be fun lol
It's too bad you have no money atm to make it to here hahaha
Moving out can be a pain.

 

[Cherry64]

Nah, I don't give a **** if anyone else sees it. Actually, out of everyone on this site, I just didn't want you and my brother to know I was a ***. My brother never comes here anymore though so I'm safe, I think.

Btw, I'm sure Vic knows already, don't know who tony is, and I don't care about what's her face lol


Also, **** yeah! I'd be a pro wingman. It'd be fun lol
It's too bad you have no money atm to make it to here hahaha
Moving out can be a pain.

Not my fault I'm saving for school and you keep temping me.
Yeah you would have always been a pimp wingman
still jealous of that SoundWave thing your going to

 

[DTP]

lmao

I may not even go to Soundwave, I need to find someone to chill with there cuz as of now it'd be me and random people that I wouldn't have much fun with.
Plus I'm broke as ****.

 

[Cherry64]

trufax. I went out to the bar last night. Beats were sick, but wow did I ever feel like shizza this morning.

the samus boards renamed the social thread to commemorate this special occasion

 

[Pluvia]

So by possibly giving Aidan the courage to post this, I'm indirectly responsibly for Cherry finding out about DTP?

So that's like 3 in 1? Man the amount of good karma I should get for that.

 

[Cherry64]

So by possibly giving Aidan the courage to post this, I'm indirectly responsibly for Cherry finding out about DTP?

So that's like 3 in 1? Man the amount of good karma I should get for that.

^^^this guy. He knows what's up.

 

[DTP]

trufax. I went out to the bar last night. Beats were sick, but wow did I ever feel like shizza this morning.

the samus boards renamed the social thread to commemorate this special occasion

hahaha when I saw your facebook status that made no sense last night I figured you were drunk xD

So by possibly giving Aidan the courage to post this, I'm indirectly responsibly for Cherry finding out about DTP?

So that's like 3 in 1? Man the amount of good karma I should get for that.

lmao

Funny how things work out sometimes, isn't it?

 

[Pluvia]

It actually feels kinda weird, like if I think about it I've affected a lot of peoples lives. Indirectly or directly.

 

[Ladybug]

Meh, I'm bi too. The smash community knows and a few select other people... But no one from my church nor my parents know.

Then again my parents (or at least my mom) still think I'm a virgin soooooo... >.> Haha.

 

[Pluvia]

We can all be too scared to tell lots of people in real together.

 

[Silent_Rain]

Is this the new coming out thread? lol.
I don't think anyone is 100% gay or straight. There is this girl I know who I think is so beautiful. She makes me feel all fuzzy inside
Funny thing is that I'm "gay." She's really comfortable with me since she knows I'm not into girls. I guess I'm just a sucker for purrdy girls.

By the way one thing that's actually bothering is the fact that I'm not out to my family. They probably have an idea but we never really speak about our personal lives to one another. I feel like I have to because I feel like I'm living a lie. Additionally, I don't feel I have the courage to do it. Perhaps when I settle down with someone, I'll tell them.

 

[Pikaville]

Tyler you have DEFINITELY affected my life.

That so weird how because I posted,DTP posted and then someone found out who knows him.

 

[Jon Farron]

It bothers me that IM GOING TO FAIL MATH D:
i have a 60 something in it and ive been putting so much attention into math (and not getting better) that my science grades have been dropping. I NEED HELP
Also my sister has been a total b¡tch latley, i feel like im gonna explode....

 

[Pluvia]

Tyler you have DEFINITELY affected my life.

That so weird how because I posted,DTP posted and then someone found out who knows him.

I feel so awesome.

And yeah that was weird. Hopefully our friends will react the same as Cherry eh.

 

[Pikaville]

I feel so awesome.

And yeah that was weird. Hopefully our friends will react the same as Cherry eh.

That's because you ARE awesome.

and yeah hopefully most of our friends are accepting as cherry......DTP your a lucky guy to have a rational and awesome friend like Cherry.

 

[DTP]

Is this the new coming out thread? lol.
I don't think anyone is 100% gay or straight. There is this girl I know who I think is so beautiful. She makes me feel all fuzzy inside
Funny thing is that I'm "gay." She's really comfortable with me since she knows I'm not into girls. I guess I'm just a sucker for purrdy girls.

haha I know what you mean. We're still male after all, that natural attraction to the opposite sex will always be there, I think. It's just not as prominent.

I feel so awesome.

And yeah that was weird. Hopefully our friends will react the same as Cherry eh.

That's because you ARE awesome.

and yeah hopefully most of our friends are accepting as cherry......DTP your a lucky guy to have a rational and awesome friend like Cherry.

haha yeah I was just gonna say I have some pretty cool friends lol

We'll see how the rest react. It shouldn't be too different.
So close to coming out to my best guy friend yesterday btw, but I still can't bring myself to do it. Known him for like 12 years lol

 

[Pluvia]

I was so close to telling like everyone I know on saturday. Never did though.

 

[Delta-cod]

It bothers me that IM GOING TO FAIL MATH D:
i have a 60 something in it and ive been putting so much attention into math (and not getting better) that my science grades have been dropping. I NEED HELP
Also my sister has been a total b¡tch latley, i feel like im gonna explode....

Okay, I was feeling the same way recently. Here's how I got help:

Do practice problems and if you get them wrong, look up the answers in the book (if they are there) and try again. If you can't figure it out, SAVE THE WORK and bring it in to your teacher to check. Hopefully he'll be able to explain it to you well enough that you understand it. Don't spend too much time on it if you're not getting it during that session. IF you're not making any progress, you'll only get frustrated and it will hurt you in the long run. Stop and take a break.

 

[Kurtz]

So, uh, sorry my brain decided to have a thought-abortion all over your guys' thread last night. I'm sorry that my brain had an abortion. There is something bothering me though, and it's germane to the discussion, I promise. I don't know if I can say it better than Gore Vidal already did:

"There are no homosexual people, only homosexual acts."

I don't want to start a big debate or anything, and I really hope nobody takes offense at my asking, because I have zero problem with people engaging in homosexual acts--truthfully, I'm kind of a fan myself. But in your own experience, what is it that caused you to identify as a "homosexual" or "bisexual" person? Was it just the awareness of "same-sex attraction", or do you think it amounts to more than that?

Edit: I guess anyone who identifies as heterosexual or pansexual or what have you should feel free to respond too. I'm equally skeptical that anyone is heterosexual as I am that anyone is anything else.

 

[Pikaville]

To answer your question Kurtz.

I personally just find both men and women sexually attractive,pretty much in equal amounts.I was literally just in the locker rooms in school one day,looked at this guy in our year who had a great body,then was like......hmmmmmmm.I had been with women before that and had never thought of guys in that way.It was pretty sudden.

Now I've never done anything more than kiss another guy(he was drunk and is straight)but I'm definitely interested in experimenting.So at this point in time,I can't comment on what sex Id prefer "engaging" with.

The weird thing is my interest in each sex changes a lot.One day ill be interested in women more,the next will be guys.Its the same with the porn I watch(sorry mods hope that's not breaking rules)

I'm not sure how it happened but it just did.I really can't say there was any defining moment that made me "bisexual".....it just happened.

Hope that's what you were looking for.

Also your last sentence I don't get.Can you explain what you mean?

 

[1048576]

I call myself gay because I'm only sexually aroused by guys.

I don't understand the point you're trying to make though. IMO, someone who commits <adj> acts is a/an <adj> person. Like someone who commits crimes is a criminal person, right?

There is research to suggest (wikipedia: sexual arousal/sexual orientation) that certain areas of the brain are responsible for sexual arousal. In men it seems these areas do not "activate" in the presence of sexual stimuli contrary to their stated sexual preference. In women, however, these arousal centers activate even while say, lesbian sex is viewed by a heterosexual woman.

 

[Ladybug]

For me yeah, it is a sexual attraction, of course. But I'm a bi-sexual because I have the ability to fall in love and have a relationship with either sex. When I become attracted to someone, I become attracted to a personality, not a person.

 

[DTP]

But in your own experience, what is it that caused you to identify as a "homosexual" or "bisexual" person? Was it just the awareness of "same-sex attraction", or do you think it amounts to more than that?

Uh......well for me, I just noticed that my attraction towards men was slowly rising as time went on, and my attraction towards women was slowly fading. God knows why, but that's just how it is.
Not gonna go into how I first became attracted to guys though lol

I defined myself as being bisexual up until Late 2009. I, of course, was still attracted to women, but men always intrigued me more for some reason.

Also, you don't have to do anything with the same sex to know you're gay. Hope that's obvious.
I've done absolutely nothing with another guy lmao

 

[Reizilla]

I find it funny/ironic that this is the problem thread and a large number of people here are gay/whatever, which I'm sure is a higher percentage than the SWF total percent of gay/etc. people. Just a funny thought.

 

[Pikaville]

We wouldn't be posting here if people didn't make an issue of it.

It's peoples attitude/reaction that makes the problem.Or maybe it's the fact that some of us care to much about how others view us?

It is kinda funny though.Actually how come the LGBT thread got closed down in the 1st place?

 

[Necrotic]

Il try to change the subject...Does this bother you?

 

[CalamityofCox]

i have decided to unistall all my computer games for now because i have serious problem with time management when it comes to studying.

 

[Cherry64]

I feel so awesome.

And yeah that was weird. Hopefully our friends will react the same as Cherry eh.

Ahaha, well I saw his name as the last poster in this thread and i wanted to make sure he's okay, stumbled accross this. Not dissapointed though, just hope he's happy about this, he's probably still super emberrased about it though knowing him .

Oi, you can sleep in my tent when we go camping hey? nothings changed between us D-rod, you still my home boy

That's because you ARE awesome.

and yeah hopefully most of our friends are accepting as cherry......DTP your a lucky guy to have a rational and awesome friend like Cherry.

I've met lotsa gay people, they are regular people. more people need to meet a gay person without realizing they are gay then maybe more people would be more accepting. honestly, I believe that no one is gay or straiught, just do gay or straight things.

hahaha when I saw your facebook status that made no sense last night I figured you were drunk xD

I was Way too drunk. I re-wrote it so people could go look to see what it Was supposed to say if you wish to read it lol.

 

[Kurtz]

Thanks so much for your replies. I could probably crash the servers with what I have to say, but I'm trying hard to condense it into something more workable. The reason I asked in the first place is because my own thoughts on the subject are often quite hard for me to understand, so I am not really surprised people had a hard time understanding what I was trying to say. I didn't make myself very clear in my first post, so I should probably go into more detail about just why I'm wary of the idea of “sexual orientation” before I try to respond to anyone.

First off, I am not religious and I don't have an agenda. I realize that for most people who identify as anything other than heterosexual, it's all they can hope for just to get society to tolerate their behavior, let alone worry about what I'm talking about. I do not mind at all if someone says that they are gay or bisexual, so I really hope no one is offended at what I have to say. Also, sorry if it looks like I think I'm the smartest guy in the room or something. This has just been a source of considerable anxiety for me on a personal level, and honestly, I would love to be wrong.

When a man says to me that he is gay, I interpret that to mean that he believes there is “something about him” which produces his sexual attraction for other men, and likewise there is “something about him” which makes women unattractive to him. Indeed, most people think that whether they are attracted to one sex or another or both is determined by something about them called their “sexual orientation”.

I think this is false. The American Psychological Association (something else I am very skeptical of...) seems to agree, saying that sexual orientation amounts to “an enduring pattern of emotional, romantic, and/or sexual attractions to men, women, or both sexes”. In other words, when someone experiences sexual attraction, we label them as homosexual or heterosexual or bisexual because their behavior was homosexual or heterosexual or bisexual, not because “they themselves” are any of those things. So “sexual orientation” is descriptive of sexual attraction, not prescriptive.

I think the best reason I can give you for believing what I do is an argument from the existence of sexual fetishes:

If someone is sexually aroused by a certain stimulus, then there is something about them that produces that arousal.
Something about someone that produces arousal given certain stimuli constitutes a “sexual orientation” within that person.
Therefore, your sexual fetishes are the direct outcome of your sexual orientation.

Doesn't sound quite right does it?

If you say that your attraction towards your own sex is the outcome of your sexual orientation, why not also say your sexual fetishes are? What's the relevant difference? We know full well that there are mechanisms within us that can cause us to experience sexual attraction to objects which are totally irrelevant for reproductive purposes. Using Occam's Razor: we already know about a way we can come to be attracted to our own sex, so the concept of “sexual orientation” is superfluous; therefore, we should discard it.

 

[~Firefly~]

I've met lotsa gay people, they are regular people. more people need to meet a gay person without realizing they are gay then maybe more people would be more accepting. honestly, I believe that no one is gay or straiught, just do gay or straight things.

Heh, funny you should say that; I have 2 gay friends here in BC, and I was completely clueless for months before they told me. XD I never suspected a thing. I can't see any rational person could hold anything against people based on their sexuality if they've known any homosexuals in that way. People who judge solely on things like that are simply ignorant IMO. >.>

Hi Darren! =P Just figured I'd post to make it clear that I know you're gay now, and I don't care. So now, again, that's one less person to tell. =3 IDK if you were planning on saying anything to the Smash community about this, but I won't be compelled to talk about it, believe me. And if you do, you know me and this other Albertan smasher I've never met before have got your back. ^.^

 

[Pluvia]

I'm counting that as 4 in 1.

Also that doesn't make any sense Kurtz.

 

[Miamisportsfan45]

I'm counting that as 4 in 1.

Also that doesn't make any sense Kurtz.

I read your post a few days ago, and only realized yesterday that a Volcano was acting up. xD

Now I understand.

 

[Pluvia]

I read your post a few days ago, and only realized yesterday that a Volcano was acting up. xD

Now I understand.

Planes still aren't flying in the UK, thousands of people are stranded in other countries.

And yeah it was snow.

 

[Miamisportsfan45]

Planes still aren't flying in the UK, thousands of people are stranded in other countries.

And yeah it was snow.

Oh... That's better, and yeah, I know what you mean.

 

[Ladybug]

Going into the hospital today for some stuff.

And I'm hungry.