Something bothering you?

[RATED]

hi there, I am not bothered anymore(bout my older posts) I am so different to that girl that I decided to not try anymore, I mean she's the kind of religious girl, when I can't just believe in those stuff and some more stuff.

I don't like to get a bit of distance but is the best thing I think I can do. I don't want to offend or be offended cuz of beliefs.

 

[ranmaru]

Ok, well, I have no idea what to do in this situation. This is more of a venting post, but I just had to let it out...

One thing I can definetly know, is that being able to have a good background, having access to scholarships, and NOT going to juvinile blah blah blah, is better than losing all those posessions.

Maybe you should report it. You might make the friendship go a little haywire, but hey, that's what friends are for.

Or, maybe tell a grown up (lol even if you are grown up yourself) about it. I also purposely deleted most of the quote.



Just at least do SOMETHING. He has to man up and leave the posessions for now, he can get them all back (with his own money if he has to) in the future. I know I had to do something like that. It's no joke, it's depressing too. :[

 

[jamlosingthegame]

I thought I could save him and I thought I did. Says he's going to OD tomorrow. Nothing seemed to work. Did I mess up somewhere? Am I not a good friend anymore? I tried everything I could think of, but it looks like I just wasted my time. Same friend as before in my past posts says he is going to end his life. It being the weekend, it doesn't look like I can get to my guidance counselor in time. Not only that, I'm going to take the ACT tomorrow, and these thoughts will bug the **** out of me the whole time. So much for hoping the ACT was going to be my saving grace and that I could save a friend from suicide. I'll need help to get through this.

 

[Fried Ice Cream]

@ Jamlosingthegame
I've got a friend who works as a sort support to the people who got left behind, after a murder of a family member. She once had a person who was going to commit suicide. She had him on the phone right before he went to do it.
She told me the biggest point with someone that is going to commit suicide, is not to be like: "don't do it man, you have so much to live for, you're being irrational"
You have to relate to them, agree with what their doing, and make them feel like they are in total control. Don't argue with him, just listen and tell him that you understand what he's going through (By the way, actually TRY to).
Just tell him you want to talk to him and hear his story, just listening. This will result in talking, be cautious and for the love of god, don't upset him. Only try to cheer him up when you're fairly certain that he's going in the right direction.


I really hope this will help.

 

[#HBC | Acrostic]

You have to relate to them, agree with what their doing, and make them feel like they are in total control.

I thought I'd comment that your assertion to "agree with what they are doing" seemingly equates to, 'encouraging a suicidal person to commit suicide'. Which in this case, is not the outcome that Jam wants for his friends.

Not only that, I'm going to take the ACT tomorrow, and these thoughts will bug the **** out of me the whole time. So much for hoping the ACT was going to be my saving grace and that I could save a friend from suicide. I'll need help to get through this.

I would try talking to your friend one more time. Overdosing is a sign that your friend is miserable, but the situation isn't unbearable. Statistically, the suicide rate for females is lower than males because they often try to die via pill abuse. And often times they get discovered by an ambulance or medic team in time. Something else to consider - getting into contact with the parents. Men on the other hand tend to use a firearm and shoot themselves in the head. A far more definitive approach to suicide that signifies no hesitation. Statistically speaking, this also means that women who attempt suicide and fail the first time, usually don't attempt a repeat performance. Even though I detest personal anecdotes, this rule held true for my first girlfriend back in high school. She is now on medication and is attending the same college. She appears to be quite happy. Then again, she always appeared happy.

 

[jamlosingthegame]

The guidance counselor already talked with his parents when I went to him about this situation before. We've been texting each other for a while now, so I hope he'll reconsider. If not, then the ***** that sent him into this depression will never look the same to me anymore.

 

[#HBC | Acrostic]

I think that the best course of action would be to get into contact with the parents and have them be alert that something may happen to their child tonight. If you want your friend to live, then you should set up a safety-net, just in case talking to your friend leads to an unfavorable conclusion. It may also help you sleep at night, knowing that the family is there in case something does go wrong. You have a duty as a friend, but it is not your primary duty to look after the well-being of your friend. That should be the job of the parents.

As far as the ACT goes, you should take the exam on Saturday. If you feel that you weren't emotionally prepared, you have until Thursday afternoon to cancel your scores.

 

[LLDL]

IM STILL PISSED THAT I HAVE GOTTEN MY MELEE AND CONTROLer STOLEN AT ROM

 

[jamlosingthegame]

I think that the best course of action would be to get into contact with the parents and have them be alert that something may happen to their child tonight. If you want your friend to live, then you should set up a safety-net, just in case talking to your friend leads to an unfavorable conclusion. It may also help you sleep at night, knowing that the family is there in case something does go wrong. You have a duty as a friend, but it is not your primary duty to look after the well-being of your friend. That should be the job of the parents.

As far as the ACT goes, you should take the exam on Saturday. If you feel that you weren't emotionally prepared, you have until Thursday afternoon to cancel your scores.

I have no way of contacting his house. I do have a way of contacting the guidance counselor.

About the ACT, you do realize that today is Friday and tomorrow is Saturday and the day of the ACT. =/

 

[INSANE CARZY GUY]

I'm so sad right now i'm trying now to fall over from lack of willpower and bust my head off on my desk i'm thinking lots of blood.

I don't feel like talking about it I just want the idea that just because my face looks like smile or blank means nothing sometimes depression is so great you couldn't have an idea. I'm not going to harm myself.

Do I have that space cadet glow?
ok now don't talk to me logic isn't to real to me any more i'm out of my ming now.

 

[#HBC | Acrostic]

I have no way of contacting his house. I do have a way of contacting the guidance counselor.

White Pages or Facebook perhaps. When there is a will, there is always a way. If your resourceful efforts bring up no results, then try pooling in resources from third party sources such as a suicide hotline.

About the ACT, you do realize that today is Friday and tomorrow is Saturday and the day of the ACT. =/

The Thursday after you take the exam.

The deadline for adding, changing, or canceling college and high school reports is the Thursday noon (central time) immediately after the regularly scheduled Saturday test date.

 

[jamlosingthegame]

I emailed my guidance counselor, but was unable to find my friend on White Pages =/. About the ACT, I'll see after tomorrow.

 

[#HBC | Acrostic]

I emailed my guidance counselor, but was unable to find my friend on White Pages =/. About the ACT, I'll see after tomorrow.

Well, best wishes on your ACT. I hope that you get enough sleep to perform at a satisfactory level. If not, then there still would be the option for you to cancel and take it over again (assuming that college deadlines do not conflict with a retake). There is a time when you have to look out for yourself, before you can worry about others. Even though friends should show concern for each other, they can't dictate every moment and choice that their peers choose to make. The ACT is an important exam and I think that your friends should recognize that just because they don't feel the pieces fit in their puzzle, they should jumble up the set-up you currently have laid out. There are times when you should be selfish, especially when you've exhausted all altruistic options. Perhaps this is one of them. Perhaps not. After all, value is evaluated on the results. Whether its the value of friendship or performance on the ACT.

 

[StealthyGunnar]

im wondering what topic i should choose for my persuasive speech for school. I want to persuade people to sign a petition banning Dihydrogen Monoxide. But im conflicted since im not sure if some1 will get it and tell the others. if you dont know what im talking about, dont worry.

 

[#HBC | Acrostic]

I'm wondering which topic I should choose for my persuasive speech. I want to persuade people to sign a petition banning Dihydrogen Monoxide. But I'm conflicted since I'm not sure if someone will get it and tell the others. If you don't know what I'm talking about, don't worry.

Would make a great introduction for a persuasive speech on scientific comprehension.

 

[StealthyGunnar]

i personally think its genious. but ya know.

 

[#HBC | Acrostic]

i personally think its genious. but ya know.

A prank is a prank and a persuasive speech is a persuasive speech. If you turn a prank into a persuasive speech, you are likely to attract scorn as a prank identifies and isolates individuals who might be uninformed. The more successful your prank is, the less successful your persuasive speech might turn out. No one likes to be fooled or thought of as an idiot. Even if you do know that "dihydrogen monoxide" represents H2O, there are far more relevant implications that take advantage of scientific jargon. For example, hand sanitizers that tell you that they kill 99% of bacteria give off the impression that they are fairly effective. However, approximately 1% of bacteria cause significant harm to the human body. Therefore the guarantee is virtually baseless. Scientific jargon and illiteracy affects everyone, including scientists themselves. It is a great premise for a persuasive speech, but it shouldn't be the primary content. Again, just my personal impression. I also wouldn't criticize people who fall for the prank, as most people associate monoxide with carbon monoxide, a compound that is dangerous and phrased in its common context, unlike "dihydrogen monoxide." If you find anymore scientific pranks, I would enjoy reading them. Good luck on your persuasive speech.

 

[BSP]

im wondering what topic i should choose for my persuasive speech for school. I want to persuade people to sign a petition banning Dihydrogen Monoxide. But im conflicted since im not sure if some1 will get it and tell the others. if you dont know what im talking about, dont worry.

Gotta admit that would be pretty funny if people signed the petition rofl

 

[Reizilla]

I remember seeing those guys at the park trying to do that...

 

[Merkuri]

One of my best friends(former girlfriend) calls me fairly often and I keep either having to ignore her calls because or making up an excuse to hang up early because she is calling from a different country and I don't have the money to keep talking to her. I really love her, but I feel like I'm neglecting her. Then again I don't know why she feels the need to call me so often, it sucks but I think I'm just gonna change her name to ignore in my phone and not talk to her for a while.

 

[jamlosingthegame]

How about other means of communication besides calling?

 

[Merkuri]

How about other means of communication besides calling?

Well yeah that's what I want. She could text me as much as she wants or hit me up on facebook. But she always wants to talk, it's not even when something is bothering her, she just wants to talk to me whenever she has free time and I just simply cannot do that.

 

[Reizilla]

10skypes??

 

[Cherry64]

^^^^ Skype is WAY to legit. not only can you guys talk, but you can even SEE each other

Mac Books Da Bess.

 

[Merkuri]

Well the charger for my laptop is broken and I don't think she has a home computer so I'm not sure how well that would work.

I have decided that I am just going to ignore her calls from now on, and when she talks to me on facebook I'll tell her that I'm out of international minutes. And therefore she only talk to me on FB or text me. I wish I had thought of this before.

 

[Sanu]

my avatar scares me

but its howloween

 

[1048576]

Another day, another straight guy I'd take a bullet for.

So often it happens that I just wish I had always been without. Like, if I never had coffee, I wouldn't miss it, and I wouldn't be cranky when I didn't have it. Arousal is kind of like that I think.

 

[ranmaru]

Well yeah that's what I want. She could text me as much as she wants or hit me up on facebook. But she always wants to talk, it's not even when something is bothering her, she just wants to talk to me whenever she has free time and I just simply cannot do that.

I have tried that once. Then, you or her don't have the time to get on the computer to IM, don't have unlimited text...

Oh I just re-read your post... sorry... ^^;

It's gonna be like this. It'll be harder for you both to communicate simply because you are seperated by countries... that means no free weekends. : [

Maybe you could get an international plan? That's what I did. I had a few good friends who wanted to call me from out of Country.

But if not, your friendship will not be strong, sadly. (And it isn't your fault!)

I accepted calls on weekends without knowing it didn't count, got charged nearly $1000. xD (THEN got the international plan)

But, I haven't talked to them since. I also haven't been on IM for a while. ;-;

Instead of putting her on ignore, just have a serious talk. Tell her that you can't just accept calls from out of country like that... (LIKE srsly how can they be able to send out so much calls and NOT worry about costs? LOL)

 

[Cherry64]

Another day, another straight guy I'd take a bullet for.

So often it happens that I just wish I had always been without. Like, if I never had coffee, I wouldn't miss it, and I wouldn't be cranky when I didn't have it. Arousal is kind of like that I think.

Sex is like Pringels man, Once you pop, the fun don't stop.

Sex being relative to Arousal. Sorry to hear about the drama in your life, guys kind of suck.

 

[ranmaru]

I don't like coffee either. I'd rather have Lemon tea or Orange + Apple Tea (a little stronger but still a little tangy) instead. But I shy away from sodas soft drinks or coffees.

 

[Colonel Cuddles]

^^^^ Skype is WAY to legit. not only can you guys talk, but you can even SEE each other

Mac Books Da Bess.

Naw, the best use for skype is prank calls. IIm pretty sure it's virtually untrackable through skype.

 

[Cherry64]

Friends of mine used to call random numbers through skype and then make out with each other on cam and start taking of clothes, then without showing anything, they ended the call and blocked the people. If I had never been friends with them I'd have given my left nut to see that. One is now a model, and her friend is still way hot as well.

I know what your thinking, but that's why god gave me two. I'm also not the creepy guy that's merely a dreamer, I made out with the model one in a movie theatre once

 

[BSP]

I'm hearing Christmas ads already...
It's just my pet peeve. I really don't like when people start talking about Christmas before Thanksgiving and Halloween (to some extent, not as much as Thanksgiving)
Have some respect people

 

[Morrigan]

Respect for?

 

[Pikaville]

Our ears and the great songs they overplay around this time of year.

"Last Christmas, I gave you my heart.But the very next day, you gave it away"

 

[Merkuri]

I'm bummed that my Best Friends' thread got closed. The od said he lock it if I brought up a topic again, but I thought he meant the question I asked and not the overall topic. The thread was dear to me

 

[Cherry64]

Our ears and the great songs they overplay around this time of year.

"Last Christmas, I gave you my heart.But the very next day, you gave it away"

LOL I hate that song with a passion, like punching babies passion.

 

[DtJ Jungle]

i despise christmas music with a passion.

Sometimes i dont get enough sleep

old news

 

[Claire Diviner]

The thing that's currently bothering me: motivation problems.

That's the one thing I lack. I'm sure I can change that by simply doing what I want/should do, but I find myself on the Wii, surfing the web... well mostly coming here and posting on the boards and going on Facebook. I haven't sketched anything in a while now. Maybe I should limit my time on the boards/wi-fi Brawls and do something more productive. I love Brawl, and love playing online with the cool people I've played thus far, and win or lose, I do learn and grow as a smasher. But in the process, it has made me pretty lazy as of late. You know what? I think I will go out. Wait, nevermind: New England weather says "no". =__=

Still, I'm gonna go do something productive. Tomorrow's another day for going out. Wait! Saw 3-D is tomorrow! That gives me something to do that day! :D

 

[mzink*]

Minor vent here.

My spinal problems are getting worse and preventing my ribs from being able to expand making it painful and difficult to breathe. Most of the time I can deal but sometimes it just wears on me till I'm like gaahhhh! Its also causing the nerves my mid/upper back area to die so I'm losing sensation back there. Very odd feeling, you know how when part of your body falls asleep, it feels like dead weight? That's what my back muscles feel like, random dead weight in an odd spot. Plus its irritating to shuffle around like an 80 year old when I'm only 24. I'm not an old fogie yet dammit, I still want to run and play and act goofy and be freeeeee.

But on the upside, therapy may help over time so that's what I'm hopin for. Feels wonderful to have someone manually try to push your spine and ribs back in place btw. /sarcasm

I'm cool though, I'm cool, just feel like venting once in a while.